Monday, June 12, 2006

The Book Bitches interview with Dakota Cassidy

Hullo, Dakota! *hugs* You know, I have to admit am very excited, because I have a feeling that this interview is going to be very interesting. *g* I mean, really, I finally got the chance to interview an erotic romance writer! That’s like asking tips from a sexpert for free! Yep. Definitely me likey. LOL


Hey, ladies! Thanks ever so much for having me and hugs right back :)


Now, please feel comfortable—oh, excuse me, let me take that whip from your seat... Sorry about that. *sigh* Sometimes Trollop forgets to put her toys back in the fun drawer after she uses them. I know! What’s that? Oh, let me get those handcuffs too. *stash toys away*


Ohhhhh, toys. I love toys. Ya got an Etch a Sketch? LMAO. Oh, and the sexpert thing. Does this mean I have to dole out advice? Cuz, I gotta tell ya, I only do it missionary style with the lights out. Snort.


You? *cough* I seriously doubt that. *cough* LOL, okay, is that seat better? Good, good. Let’s start then. *g*

Last month, after Trollop’s “
The Big Cock Theory” (forgive her, she has problems), the topic of erotica/erotic romance came up. I honestly got confused because some of our readers said there’s actually a difference between the two. I mean, as kinky as Trollop and I are, you can say we are quite *whispers* virgins *blush* when it comes to this genre. (Why, yes, we can be virgins, hmph!) So tell us, Dakota, is there a difference between erotica and erotic romance? And if there is, what’s the middle ground between erotica and romance?


Here’s the diff for me and this is just my take on it and how I write my books. You can’t just boink for the sake of boinking. Is the sex graphic? Yes. Do I use a less flowery word than penis or manhood to describe ye ole meat whistle? Yes. Is the sex detailed explicitly? Yep. However, my view on the difference is this—when you read “The Adventures of Oral Ophelia” and all she has is encounter after sexual encounter, with various partners or even just one and no particular conflict other than she just wants to bang—THAT’S sex for the sake of sex and not what places like Changeling Press and others in this genre are aiming for. You may start out that way, however, some dammed guy always comes along and messes up your notion that love doesn’t really exist. LOLLOL

If you depict two people falling in love, who in the course of their circumstance nail each other and you use explicit language to describe their encounters, plus throw in a conflict or two—THAT’S what I write.

I’m not writing vignettes of stories that entail a wild night with a floor scraping long-donged endowed hero only. In fact, I’m not writing too many long-donged heroes period. They aren’t part of what we might call the average club, but I don’t focus a lot on his size as much as I do how the heroine feels. I’m writing about
werewolves and vampires and all sorts of genres that find two people who belong together and then, I open the door to their bedroom and let you peek inside while they fall in love and overcome an issue or two. It really isn’t that different from a mainstream book that depicts the sex in a less graphic way. I.e., not using the “c or p” word. There’s lots of oral sex in say a Blaze book. It’s just not written with the naughtier words.


You know, come to think of it, most mainstream books today have pretty hot sex scenes. I mean, it’s no secret that it is what’s in demand anyway. Everyone wants sex—and not just sex, mind you—amazing sex, please. Well, really, who doesn’t want that? LOL

So how long have you been writing erotica? And have you always been comfortable writing graphic sex scenes?



I’ve only been writing two years if you don’t count the year I wrote nothing because I was getting a divorce. LOL. I began as a reviewer three years ago and my reviews were always sprinkled with a little humor. One day, I saw a commercial for Yogurt on TV and that was it. It gave me an idea and I wrote a book. Don’t know why, don’t know how. It just happened and I was accepted first time out of the gate. I reviewed a ton of erotic e-books before I wrote one and I’ll admit, when I first read one, my eyes kinda did the wobbly thing, but after that I kinda dug the freedom it gave you to not have to come up with the crazy words I’ve seen in past mainstream books. So writing the sex came very easily for me. Like this writing thing, it just happened :) I’m not at all bothered by it and find it refreshing to write it like it is.


Crazy words? Oh god, no more moist delta of love and no more ooh la la manroot! Would never understand it why people thought those were up to a standard—or worse, sexy! *shudder* Seriously, for the love of all that is good, please, say it as it is. Usually flowery languages don’t fit at all, and more often than not, a girl just needs a good “fuck.” :P

*Ahem* Since many of your books are published on ebook format, what is your opinion on ebooks? Do you think more people will turn to them in the future?



Ya know, e-books get knocked a lot, but I have to tell you, some of the best stuff can be found in an e-book. You don’t always have to write to trend per se. You can get as wild imaginatively and that’s what I love about e-books. It’s also very true that you can earn a decent living writing them. It takes time and patience, but if you find a following, it can happen. I think with the cyber world and the way it continues to grow, more people will find the quick fix an e-book can bring (because it can be downloaded and if it’s part of a series, you can bet if the author is prolific the series will be out much sooner than it would in print) and the variety of genres and sub genres will only get more intriguing as time goes on. Lots of people spend uber amounts of time at the comp—why not read a book while you’re there? I love a good print book too. I think there’s plenty of room in both arenas for everyone.


Yes, I agree. That’s why it’s such a shame when mainstream authors try to belittle ebook writers. *sigh* Oh well, forgive them, they don’t know what they’re doing—and saying, apparently.

Now, regarding research, how do you do yours? Knowing that you write erotica, are people compelled to share their sexual experiences or fantasies? Or all of them are derived from personal experiences? *g*



LOLLOLLOLLOL. I WISH some hunky, narcoleptic vampire had come to help me write his erotic experience. However, that’s not the case. I don’t have a whole lot of personal experiences, but then, compared to most, I write tame stuff. I’m pretty much H/H. I think I’m basically incapable of having anything more than monogamy in one of my books. No matter what I do, my funny outweighs the heat and I can’t get past it, so I’ve embraced it :) Whatever more risqué sex I write has mostly been derived from my imagination. I’m more about an ironic situation in a book than I am about ironic sex. LOL

And YES, when I was dating and men asked what I did for a living and I said erotic romance writer, well, everyone has a story, ya know? One guy I dated felt compelled to woo me with his idea of erotic, which from a man is more Penthouse Forum. That’s not to say Penthouse doesn’t have its value, it just isn’t terribly romantic. LOL. Needless to say, we didn’t end up on date two because really, his grammar sucked. LOLLOL


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51 comment(s):

Blogger Michelle said...

Great start to the interview, Dakota. And I just lovvvvvvvvve the picture, LOL.

Michelle

6/12/2006 10:06:00 AM  

Blogger Harlot said...

Everyone, part two will be posted later in the afternoon.

Don't you just love Dakota's answers? LOL Okay, have fun! :D

6/12/2006 10:15:00 AM  

Blogger C Bradshaw said...

Dakota, great interview! I can't wait for the second part later. :)

Will go back for my question later. Don't know if the BBs have already asked it in the interview. :P

6/12/2006 10:30:00 AM  

Anonymous Ollenska said...

Dakota, nice to meet you. :) And great answers you have! Glad you can join us here, you and your gun-weilding vampire self, LOL. Love your pic! :D

Olly

6/12/2006 11:13:00 AM  

Blogger Petra said...

Dakota, i love your answers. :)

I hope you stop by the Book Bitches often. We always have such a blast here. :)

Can't wait for the second part!

6/12/2006 11:27:00 AM  

Blogger Dakota Cassidy said...

Hey, girls! I'm back--slept a little longer than the norm this morning. LOL

I'm telling you--that outfit is HOT, eh? I wonder if it comes in pink? LOLLOL

Dakota :)

6/12/2006 12:00:00 PM  

Blogger Isabella said...

Dakota, I think that outfit comes with a matching whip. LOL

Love your answers. Great interview, ladies. :)

Just want to ask Dakota for recommendations. Which book of yours should I try first? I saw your paperbacks in Amazon including the newest one. :)

6/12/2006 12:09:00 PM  

Blogger Dakota Cassidy said...

Hey, Petra! Thanks for asking.

Hmmm, well depends on your level of commitment. LOL. If you'd like longer and a full on dose of Dakota--then Whose Bride is your best deal. That's full length novel.

If you just want a quick giggle and you like paranormals--I'd do All Wrapped Up. Besides, that's got ANGELA KNIGHT in it. LOLLOL. SHe's da bomb and a super good friend of mine. Not to mention, an ace writer. The other authors in it are fab too.

Now if you'd like a more emotional read, with some funny, Sexylips 66 is the way to go.

Just keep in mind--I do write the naughty. LOL.

DC :)

6/12/2006 12:17:00 PM  

Blogger Dakota Cassidy said...

Isabella--I meant Isabella. LOLLOL Sorry--saw the pic which is the same as Petra's and it's stuck in my mind as Petra.

Sorry, babe :)

DC :)

6/12/2006 12:19:00 PM  

Blogger Danielle De Barbarac said...

Dakota, love your answers! Glad you're spending time with us. :) Hope you'll visit us often. As Petra mentioned, this is such a great place to meet fellow book lovers and discuss any topic with them. (My faves are the masturbation one, and big cock theory LOL :P) And you'll fit right in, you're so funny!

Looking forward to the next part of the interview. :) And thanks for the recs!

6/12/2006 12:45:00 PM  

Blogger Isabella said...

Dakota, call me Izzie. :D

Thanks for the recs! You know, I have yet to read Angela Knight too. LOL. But I think I'll try Whose Bride is it Anyway first. :) I saw Harlot reading it the other week and she also mentioned it on the tagboard. However, I do like sexy funny books, so might as well try Sexylips 66 too. LOL

Thanks!

6/12/2006 12:47:00 PM  

Blogger Dakota Cassidy said...

LOL--Daniella--glad you popped back in :)

Izzy--terrific--I hope you enjoy them :)

DC :)

6/12/2006 12:50:00 PM  

Anonymous vanessa said...

Dakota, LOVE your interview! :D

Re: your comment to the post bellow, I think the BBs will call you on it, LOL. Nutella is "food for the gods" as they say. :P Between Trollop and Harlot, there's a boost in nutella sales. Boggles the mind where the two of them put all that nutella weight... Have you seen the two of them??? Must be all those, ahem, bedroom exercises. LOL! And then you! How could anyone eat all those Oreos and still fit in that skimpy outfit! Really, I am asking here!!! Am I the only porker here???

6/12/2006 01:01:00 PM  

Blogger Danielle De Barbarac said...

Izzie, try Angela Knight too. I've only read one though. Master of the Night. It's very HOT, I really liked it. :P

I think I'll be getting Whose Bride too. :D Cute cover! Dakota, is that YOUR polka dots thong??!! LOL LOL

6/12/2006 01:04:00 PM  

Blogger Danielle De Barbarac said...

Vanessa, I've asked the same thing!!!

And you're not alone, durlin. I'm a porker too. Thank God the boyfriend is fond of my curves LOL. Because really, I'd rather die than stop eating chocolates!

6/12/2006 01:07:00 PM  

Blogger Dakota Cassidy said...

LOLLOL, ladies. Hey, Vanessa! I think I'm average. I'm like 5'6 and 135-140. I'm curvier versus slender. The pic that posts with the blog comments is my REAL body. LMAO Not nearly as smokin' as the one that Trollop gave me, eh?

This nutella--never heard of it before the other day and so funny you guys should bring it up. My boyfirend told me you spread it on toast. YUMMY :)

And no, that thong was my Barbie's thong. LOLLOL

Dakota :)

6/12/2006 01:25:00 PM  

Anonymous Angela Low said...

Dakota,
Great interview.
I always love the writers who have a sense of humor. God only knows some take themselves way to seriously.(sp)?
It's nice when you find one with a sense of humor.
Will try out your books.
I'm new to the erotic romance but must say I have come to love it more all the time Lisa Valdez was my first real more erotic romance and I loved her so I'm always looking for new writers.
Thanks so much for your time.

6/12/2006 01:37:00 PM  

Blogger Maura said...

Hi Ladies!

I'm having a great time here. I'll have to bookmark this site now.

Kota - R introduced you to Nutella? I KNEW he was a great guy!

Do you get a sparkly whip from Trollop as your speaker gift? I'll polish it for you!

LOL

6/12/2006 01:40:00 PM  

Blogger Dakota Cassidy said...

Hey, Angela! Glad you popped in and yeah, some writers are VERY serious. I'm definitely not the kind who's afraid of a crowd, writes her manuscripts in the seclusion of the Swiss Alps on toilet paper because that's what REAL writers do. I guess that could be why I write humor. LOLLOL. I'm all about a good giggle and hanging out :)

I've never heard of Lisa--what was the book?

Maura, darlink--I have yet to receive my whip--how can this be? I've been pimped. LMAO

DC :)

6/12/2006 01:54:00 PM  

Anonymous Angela Low said...

She has only written one it was called Passion and it was great. Frist book, romance wise I ever read that used that P and C word really opened my eyes took a little getting used to but I find that I love it now.

6/12/2006 02:01:00 PM  

Blogger Harlot said...

Dakota! *gasp*

You've never had Nutella before????

OH

MY

GOD

We need to remedy that! And soon! Where's R? Please, please, tell him to buy you one ASAP--and instead of eating it with toast, USE IT ON HIM! LOL

Seriously, babe, Nutella with BF, the single most heavenly, yummiest, too-good-it-should-be-illegal thing EVER. ;) Just thinking of licking some Nutella off of BF makes me tingle. *blush* LOL :P

6/12/2006 02:01:00 PM  

Blogger Harlot said...

Vanessa,
Unlike Dakota here (seriously, if she's not such a darling, i would hate her and her vampy outfit! hmph!), i too am a porker LOL. Now, regarding all that Nutella, you're right sweetie, just exercise. *wink*


Maura,
Oh darling, glad you're having fun. Hope we hear from you often. :D If you want to see our fave posts, you can check out that ticker above the tagboard. Enjoy!


Angela,
I'm reading Passion now. Trollop likes it. :)


Dakota,
Oh so sorry about the whip. I think Trollop tested it first. :S Well, you know, to make sure you'll be satisfied LOL. She said she'll send it soon! :P

6/12/2006 02:05:00 PM  

Blogger Dakota Cassidy said...

Angela, LOL. I know what u mean, babe. It can be a real eye opener, but the frank language is so much more honest than say, her pearl of feminine wanting, yes? LOL

Harlot? Don't hate me because I'm photoshopped. LOLLOL And the nutella thing or lack thereof probably comes from me staying away from sweets. Gotta fit in my UNderworld costume, ya know?

I await my whip. I do. I'm sitting right by the front door...LOL

DC :)

6/12/2006 02:11:00 PM  

Anonymous Angela Low said...

Harlot,
So what do you think so far of Passion?

6/12/2006 02:11:00 PM  

Blogger Harlot said...

Dakota,
I know what you mean, you lucky wench. *sniff* I want my own vampy outfit too!!! (Still, i think i'd rather give up the outfit than Nutella. :S LOL)


Angela,
So far i'm loving it. ANd OMG, so hot! I can tell you now, one of the hottest books i've ever read. Will probably finish it before the weekend. :P

6/12/2006 02:20:00 PM  

Anonymous vanessa said...

Dakota, I see your pic here in comments and the only difference from the pic below is your gun!

Harlot, you too! Please, I saw your pic on that hate mail. LOL. I think you girls all deserve the skimpy outfit in different colors! LOL :P

6/12/2006 02:25:00 PM  

Anonymous Angela Low said...

Dakota,
OMG I just goolgled you is it true you live in Texas ?
So do I.

6/12/2006 02:26:00 PM  

Blogger Dakota Cassidy said...

Ooooh, no. I'm a FAR cry from my Matirx get up. LOLLOL I think the gun just makes me look skinnier. LOL

There's a pic of H and T? Oooh, send me. I wanna see!

DC :)

6/12/2006 02:27:00 PM  

Blogger Dakota Cassidy said...

OMG--I do, darlin'! Where are ya? if you don't want to say so here--you can e-mail me. dakota@dakotacassidy.com

DC :)

6/12/2006 02:30:00 PM  

Anonymous Angela Low said...

I live in West Texas San Angelo.

6/12/2006 02:34:00 PM  

Blogger Rachel said...

Hi Dakota, great interview. I love your answers and you seem very witty and very funny. My kind of author. :) Looking forward to reading the second part.

And by the way, I think you look very hot :D

6/12/2006 02:34:00 PM  

Blogger Dakota Cassidy said...

I'm east, babe--Dallas area :)

Hey, Rachel! Thanks much, doll. Trollop did a good job, huh? LOLLOL

DC :)

6/12/2006 02:36:00 PM  

Anonymous vanessa said...

Dakota, you could have fooled me! I can't believe we're arguing whether you're hot or not! LOL! You're gorgeous. And my mind is made up, you can't change it, nope. ;)

You can see Harlot and Trollop here (sorry I don't know how to put a link)-
http://thebookbitches.blogspot.com/2006/05/we-love-hate-mail.html

6/12/2006 02:41:00 PM  

Blogger Dakota Cassidy said...

LOL--well, thanks, babe--I'm hanging in for almost forty--it gets harder EVERY bloody day. LOL

oooooooh, I'm going to look. Thank you!

DC :)

6/12/2006 02:43:00 PM  

Blogger Dakota Cassidy said...

God, could they be any better looking? I'd slap them pretty right out of 'em if they weren't so damned nice to me. LOL

DC :)

6/12/2006 02:45:00 PM  

Anonymous Angela Low said...

Dakota ,
I see you are reading Dean Koontz's The Face did you ever read his The Bad Place? It scared the HELL out of me.

6/12/2006 02:48:00 PM  

Blogger Dakota Cassidy said...

Oh, yes--I've read tons of Dean and I loved the Bad Place, though he can be VERY spooky. Imagine living with a guy who has an imagination like that? Yikes. LOL

In fact, I often refer to the time of my divorce as the Bad Place. I say the boys and I visited it often.

Have you tried The Door To December? That was good too :)

DC :)

6/12/2006 02:50:00 PM  

Blogger Danielle De Barbarac said...

Dakota, I agree with Vanessa, you are one HOT MAMA! Your BF is very lucky. I hope you'll get the matching whip soon. ;) lol

Vanessa, I love that post! I thought it's so funny someone sent them a hate mail about Nancy Grace, lol. And yes, like Dakota, the BBs are HOT!

6/12/2006 02:52:00 PM  

Anonymous Angela Low said...

No have not tried that one yet.

6/12/2006 02:54:00 PM  

Blogger Dakota Cassidy said...

Well, thanks Danielle--I'm hanging on by a THREAD. LOL

Oh, Angela--you must give it a shot. What else in the scary genre do you read? Stephen King? I love Robin Cook and John Saul too :)

6/12/2006 02:56:00 PM  

Anonymous horny old goat said...

Dakota, you are very pretty.

Great picture, great interview.

6/12/2006 03:03:00 PM  

Blogger Dakota Cassidy said...

LOL--thanks HOG :) Appreciate the kind words!

Dakota :)

6/12/2006 03:11:00 PM  

Blogger Dakota Cassidy said...

OMG--I used the acronym HOG--forgive me, I wasn't thinking--just trying to save my lazy fingers some time. LOL

DC :)

6/12/2006 03:12:00 PM  

Anonymous Angela Low said...

Don't read to much scary stuff anymore but, I LOVED Stephen King's THE STAND one of the best books ever written.

6/12/2006 03:13:00 PM  

Blogger Shiloh Walker said...

excellent picture, dakota.

;)

6/12/2006 03:36:00 PM  

Anonymous Vixen said...

Dakota, I love your interview. Great answers. I'm a Dakota Cassidy virgin! LOL. But look forward to reading your books.
TRY NUTELLA, seriously, it's worth it. Forget the toast. All you need is a spoon and your bf (spoon is optional :P)

Angela, OMG, wasn't Passion HOT! Hotmama hounded me to read it and thank God I listened b/c I loved that book. I can't wait for the next one. I forget what it's called but it comes out in Aug. I think.

Okay, I have just realized that I have been a virgin for the last 3 authors, I have some major catching up to do. I feel so lost!

6/12/2006 03:38:00 PM  

Anonymous Angela Low said...

Vixen,
The release Date for Patience has been moved back to Nov. or maybe even Dec.
Don't know if I can wait that long.
I been a virgin for all the authors myself that is why I love this so much to find new great authors to read.

6/12/2006 03:48:00 PM  

Blogger Dakota Cassidy said...

Angela? AGREED--it's awesome.

Vixen--I'm sending BF for some. LOL

Shi--hey, doll! Thanks--ain't Harlot a GENIUS with photoshop?

DC :)

6/12/2006 03:49:00 PM  

Anonymous Vixen said...

Hey AL, Phew! Didn't want to be the only virgin LOL (although, I did pick up a JL book recently which I really liked).

Now, WHAT? Nov/Dec you say? I can't deal with that. That sucks! errr. Maybe I should re-read Passion. :P

6/12/2006 03:50:00 PM  

Anonymous Vixen said...

DC, you will not be disappointed but just to be safe...

Nutella Warnings: Addictive, may cause you to lock self in room to hide from others so as not to share, you may possibly fantasize about Nutella when not eating it, could suffer withdrawel symptoms when you've run out - i.e. cold sweats, irritability, late night drives to store, etc. etc.

But you can always blame/thank the Book Bitches for introducing it to you. That's what I do :)

6/12/2006 03:55:00 PM  

Blogger Lorelei said...

Dakota, love your answers. :)

I think your book Whose Bride Is She Anyway is a good one to start with. I'll try that one first. :)

Will come back later for the second part of the interview. Great job Harlot and Trollop!

6/12/2006 04:48:00 PM