Friday, November 10, 2006

Are men afraid of vibrators? They shouldn't be!

(Note: I’d like to dedicate this post to Trollop’s BF, not because he’s afraid of vibrators—but because he always calls me a big perv who only posts eye candy for the ladies. *rolls eyes*)

I’ve never written an article for our gentlemen readers. I know they’re there (lazy to comment!) squirming every time I post a pic or two of one of my studmuffins (at least that’s what I was told they do :/). So, I’ve decided it’s about time I post one for their lot. My only hope is that our lovely ladies would still enjoy this article, or better yet, that both sexes would find it rather useful. *g*

As you can see, I’m talking about BOBs again :P but this time, focusing more on the (*cough* foibles of *cough*) men. First off, I am no expert and only stating things based from what I’ve observed *ahem* and what I’ve read. With that said, let’s go back to our topic: Are men really afraid of BOBs?

I surely hope not LOL. But were I a man, those phallic shaped 12-inch monsters, the horror, (or worse, something like this!) would surely put me off. The thing though, those scary humongous ones were the BOBs of yore designed obviously by clueless men who probably didn’t even know what a G-spot was. If you’d look at BOBs today (especially the most in demand, nearly all influenced by women, thank God) you’d notice that most of them aren’t even cock-shaped.

They’re designed to stimulate the clitoris, which is outside the vagina, rather than for penetration. (...) The reason why (and brace yourself guys) is that only 20-30% of women can orgasm purely through penetration with no clitoral stimulation. Put simply: you thrusting in and out, in and out, alone probably isn’t going to make the earth move for her. Which means one of you usually has to use your fingers to stimulate the clitoris during intercourse.

This is harder than it sounds. It’s awkward—your hand gets cramped—and it’s hard to keep the gentle, consistent pressure the clitoris needs when your hand is being pushed by the thrusting motion. The solution is a vibrator. One of you simply holds it against the clitoral area during intercourse and Voila!, an orgasm during penetration.

So despite what you men have learned from your sex educator, (porn, that is—no wonder some blokes think slam bam is enough and then expect us to fucking scream with joy for THAT, honestly...) for most women, intercourse isn’t just the key to make them scratching your back, gasping your name and calling god due to pure bliss. According to the best sex surveys, fewer than half of women (I know!) could reach orgasm during intercourse no matter how long it lasts, and yes, no matter how HUGE the man’s ding dong is. You see, boys, most women NEED clitoral stimulation. (The occasional nudge on that delicious G-spot is mighty welcome as well. :P Oh, and have to point out that almost all women enjoy intercourse without clit stimulation. It’s just difficult for us to orgasm from that alone. Some can though, lucky cows. Hmph!)

Are you saying, *I* the man, isn’t good enough??? No, of course not, you dummy. And for the love of god, you’re not being replaced by machine either so don’t even suggest it! Just think of it this way: even the best carpenters use power tools. Mm-hmm. BOBs might give intense stimulation than a man’s hand (or tongue :P) but that’s ALL BOBs can do. They can’t kiss, cuddle, dance, cuddle, carry a conversation, cuddle, say “Ohgad, you’re driving me crazy” and things like that. BOBs are just TOYS that give variety and ENHANCE your sex life.

There are some who believe sex should be just two bodies with nothing extra, and that’s a legitimate opinion. But your lover might not hold that view. Actually, if you think about it, it’s mostly you, the men, who love those erotic enhancements or “extras.” Do you get turned on by lingerie? Music? Making love by candle light? Porn? What, no? Liar. :P These enhancements are also “unnatural” but they add spice to sex. Does porn replaces you for your lover? Of course not! They do, however, turn your lover on so that she enjoys sex with you even more. *wink* The same thing with BOB. So please, don’t think of it as: you, me and IT.

Speaking of “it,” did you know that there are some... er, BOGs that could be used by men? (Battery Operated Girlfriend? Not sure what to call it now that it’s for men. :/)

Even though men usually do not have the same difficulty in achieving orgasm that women often do, a vibrator can provide great stimulation on the head, shaft and base of the penis, as well as the testicles and anus can all be stimulated enjoyably. Some men find that the vibrator is great to massage the area underneath the scrotum as they give themselves manual stimulation. This can produce a fantastic orgasm. Vibrators can even help some men that can’t get an erection to have an orgasm.

Interesting, isn’t it? Especially with another man who enjoys these toys saying, “It almost blew off the top of my head.” (I bet I got you with that one LOL.)

It doesn’t matter whether your sex life is hot hot hot or in need of some help. To say the least, BOBs are like a helping hand (pun intended) that could give you more stimulation and your lover more orgasms, faster and harder! (Who in her right mind would say no to that?) Not only that:

There’s another very good reason why you should encourage your partner to own a vibrator, rather than see it as threatening or as a “replacement penis.” Women who own vibrators tend to have more orgasms than women who don’t. The more orgasms she has, the more her body wants. With you—not just solo. So she’s more likely to want sex with you if she owns a vibrator, than if she doesn’t. The more focused on sex women are, the higher their libido generally.

So you see, my good men, nothing to loose. And nothing to worry about. Using BOB with your lover could actually strengthen your relationship. BOBs feel good and it’s fun to use them. And yes, sex toys (like different positions, role playing and fantasy, heh) keep things getting dull. It’d probably even bring you closer since you’re sharing a new experience that’s very intimate. :)

Embarrassed? Don’t be. Your lover using BOB, or you using BOG, or both of you using BOB and BOG on each other is not weird. Nope. In fact, a recent survey by researchers at the University of California shows that 10% of American couples use BOBs, BOGs and other sex toys at least occasionally. Think about it, that faint buzzing sound you hear, that’s not a bee! More likely the couple next door playing with their BOBs (or BOGs), and I don’t mean pornstars neighbors! (Unless, of course, that’s what you really have LOL.) Gotta say, if I were you, I won’t let them have more fantabulous orgasms than me and my lover. *g*

**Photos by: Priscila Prade

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63 comment(s):

Blogger Vixen said...

"Just think of it this way: even the best carpenters use power tools."

LOL, so true.

Harot, you do have a way with words. Great article.

Now, I'm off to the gym and maybe to get a boob job. Yes, that's "boob" not BOB. LOL. That model is making me feel a bit inadequate.

11/10/2006 09:28:00 AM  

Blogger Lorelei said...

OMG, I should let my boyfriend read this! Actually I think I will. :P Great article Harlot, and a good follow up from yesterday's post. Though I was expecting some, ahem, eye candy for us ladies as well. LOL!

11/10/2006 09:51:00 AM  

Blogger Lorelei said...

Oops, I mean Wednesday's post. :P

11/10/2006 09:54:00 AM  

Blogger Harlot said...

I don't even know who this woman is. But i think she's very pretty, and very sexy. Damn her LOL. :P

11/10/2006 10:23:00 AM  

Blogger Dirk_Star said...

Yo, book bitches...

Not all men are afraid of vibrators, hell I'm sitting on one even now.

M-m-m-m-m... Feels like teen spirit.

11/10/2006 10:37:00 AM  

Blogger Danielle De Barbarac said...

This is great, Harlot. The bf likes to watch me use my toy, LOL, but I'm pretty sure he freaks out some times that I do use a BOB. Lorelei has a good idea, I should let the bf read this. LOL

11/10/2006 10:50:00 AM  

Blogger Polly King said...

I think as long as you are loving and attentive to your partner, a BOB will never replace lovemaking. So men really have nothing to fear if their partners want to use a vibrator. Besides, I agree with Harlot, it does make sex better. :P Great article!

11/10/2006 11:54:00 AM  

Blogger Polly King said...

By the way, I'm with Vixen. That woman in the pics makes me feel inadequate. LOL.

11/10/2006 11:56:00 AM  

Blogger Jordis said...

Re: "Are you saying I'm not good enough?"

Men. And their huge egos.

I guess it's understandable when there's a vibrating penis that brings their girlfriends or wives great orgasm everytime. LOL But BOBs will never replace men. BOBs can never replace men.

11/10/2006 12:51:00 PM  

Blogger HOTMAMA said...

"Don't hate me because I'm beautiful"
Remember that line? LOL, what commercial was that?

Yep, she's a hottie.

One good thing about a BOB is that you control it. Sometimes DH just wants me to keep coming "just one more time".

But a BOB can't suck and lick and bite and thrust at the same time. Ooh, I remember a scene in a Susan Johnson book where he was using a rabbit on her and decided to really get her off, sucked her nipple and moved the rabbit a little and she freaked!!! Sounds great to me :P

11/10/2006 01:13:00 PM  

Blogger Jolie said...

"Men. And their huge egos."

But when a man is hesitating to use toys, it's his ego too that you can count on. For example, my BF was hesitant to use toys before. :P Like, why do I need BOB when I have him? I told him that I don't NEED a BOB, all I want is him, but I just want to try one. With him. He likes my toys now LOL!

I think communication is the key ladies. Like any relationship issues, good communication can go a long way to solve the problem. ;)

11/10/2006 01:24:00 PM  

Blogger Jolie said...

Hotmama, what Susan Johnson book is that? LOL

11/10/2006 01:25:00 PM  

Blogger HOTMAMA said...

Jolie, LOL,the book is HOT SPOT.

"He didn't care what it was all about; he was real adaptable. And focused. "Let's fire up the rabbit and get him in the rabbit patch".

"I just adore a man who takes charge."

A super hot scene at the end of the book ;D

11/10/2006 02:12:00 PM  

Blogger Lollie Rose said...

Harlot, I loved the previous BOB post but this one is more useful. :) I wonder how to approach this topic with the hubby. LOL. I think I shall repeat to him the things you've said. Besides I've already decided that I want a BOB. Heh. My husband is open-minded, I'm sure he'll agree. ;D

11/10/2006 02:50:00 PM  

Anonymous Anonymous said...

I used a vibrator on my girlfriend while having anal sex. She described it as the most intense thing we had ever done.

11/10/2006 03:35:00 PM  

Blogger Danielle De Barbarac said...

I like Susan Johnson's books. She loves to use toys on her sex scenes. I can't remember which book it is but the hero was using this jewelry on the heroine and I thought that was hot!

11/10/2006 03:43:00 PM  

Blogger Aggie said...

Great post - nothing wrong with spicing up the sex life for BOTH partners.
btw, It's actually v. easy to have an orgasm with just the two of you if he will settle for slightly less deep penetration and you position your hips so that his penis, while very hot & wet from YOU, rubs up & down your clit as he thrusts. Its just like a hot, wet tongue girls. Orgasm guaranteed. Try it and have fun whatever way you choose.
BOGS? LOL Harlot!

11/10/2006 04:06:00 PM  

Blogger Ladybug said...

Great post. I think if I'm new at using toys, I'd like my partner to talk to me first before introducing new things. Some people get scared with this stuff. LOL. I think it's important to make sure your partner knows you're using toys to have more fun and not because he or she wasn't doing it for you. You can even buy a toy together. Now that's fun!

11/10/2006 04:44:00 PM  

Blogger Isabella said...

I agree with Ladybug. It's best to discuss with your partner his/her feelings about sex toys. Of course let them know how good it will be. LOL Besides it's always good to spice up your sex life. :) Love this BBs!

Aggie, I know what you mean about "slightly less deep". :P

11/10/2006 05:05:00 PM  

Blogger Harlot said...

Glad you're enjoying your self. *g*

Hotmama, Danielle,
I've yet to read a comtemp SJ. I like some of her historicals though: OUTLAW, SINFUL. I agree about her penchant for using sex toys LOL. She has a book where the hero ravishes the heroine on top of a piano (HOT!) and used a *gasp* brass candelabra on her. Er, actually can't remember exactly what he used, heh. But i *think* it's a candelabra LOL. I remember the piano though. Ohgad, if only some gorgeous stud will ravish me on top of a piano. My my... *sigh*

Re: I don't NEED a BOB, all I want is him, but I just want to try one. With him.

LOL Very sneaky. I like it. :P

11/10/2006 05:23:00 PM  

Anonymous Anonymous said...

you guys are sick.


This test will tell you how deep and in which world all your inner fantasies lie. It will not measure past experiences AT ALL. Even the most inexperienced child can score Hell Level 3, if unbound by Morals.

its for your mental health.

11/10/2006 05:24:00 PM  

Blogger Harlot said...

Love your little tip. :P
About BOG. Well what am i suppose to call it then? :/

Re: I wonder how to approach this topic with the hubby.

If you want to talk it first with your hubby (like Ladybug's choice :D also i like the buying a toy together idea!), yeah, just say some of the things i've said on both BOB posts. LOL! :P

Maybe you can do it for some special occasion (if there's one close, that's perfect). I think also assure him that he won't hurt you and that it'll be fine. :)

If that somehow fails, buy a BOB, use it solo and leave it where your hubby will see it LOL. And then gently tell that you'll like it more if he will use it with you. ;) Have fun!

11/10/2006 05:33:00 PM  

Blogger Harlot said...

Why Anon,
I didn't know talking about BOB with the intention of maybe (hopefully) helping some couples spice up their love life will send me to hell level 3!!! *gasp* Good lord, and i thought i was being open-minded, liberal and adventurous. *sniff* Save me, oh pure hearted Trollop!

11/10/2006 05:41:00 PM  

Blogger HOTMAMA said...

Danielle, SJ books are what prompted me to go to a sex shop, LOL. Her heroes have used hair brush handles, large-pearl necklaces, medallions, glass dildos, berries, on their heroines and most of those were in historicals if I remember right.

11/10/2006 06:01:00 PM  

Blogger Ladybug said...

Harlot, hell level 3? LMFAO!!!

Hotmama, I haven't read Susan Johnson. Is she like Emma Holly?

11/10/2006 06:09:00 PM  

Anonymous John said...

Does using a vibrator makes you a freak or a weirdo? No. It makes you have lots of climax however. Cool blog.

11/10/2006 06:57:00 PM  

Blogger George said...

Great post ... yes, many of us look at a BOB with jealous eyes but there are also a fair number of us who not only approve of the use of BOBs but we also play with our lovers while they are being used. And once you get used to using them together then you'll buy more ... different sizes, shapes and colours. It will also open up your sex life and reduce inhibitions. Perhaps even go as far as getting a small anal instrument for him to try. Some guys will look at a BOB as having an O missing.

Keep up the good work (pun intended)

11/10/2006 09:37:00 PM  

Blogger Rachel said...

I know for a fact that doctors and therapists recommend BOBs to women who have trouble reaching orgasm. And it does help a couple become closer and have more fantastic sex lol.

It's surprising how common sex toys usage can be, most people just don't talk about it. Thank God we have the BBs. ;P Great post ladies.

11/11/2006 03:12:00 AM  

Anonymous Ben said...

I like my girlfriend's toys. It's a bit unsettling in the beginning but it's all for good fun... and oh what fun... Sex toys are popular because they're effective. Take it slow, be patient and be creative.

11/11/2006 04:33:00 AM  

Blogger Petra said...

When you think of BOBs before, it's only for solo sex. Now, it brings a certain "oomph" in the relationship. All I can say is keep a bottle of lube handy. LOL Just in case. Like they say, better be prepared. :P

11/11/2006 12:17:00 PM  

Blogger Vanessa said...

Great post! I think many people are dying to use a BOB or at least very curious about it but too embarrassed to do anything about it. But there are some girls who enjoy BOB and would like to use them with their bfs but don't know how to tell their honeys they want to try it with him. It's probably the fear offending your lover, we don't want that. But usually a good talk, flattery helps, lol, will make your guy agree. After that there's no turning back. It's more likely he'll enjoy it too. :P

11/11/2006 12:53:00 PM  

Blogger Vanessa said...

Forgot to say, I think BOB shopping with your lover is a major turn on... lol!

11/11/2006 01:03:00 PM  

Blogger Shoshana said...

Great post! I guess I shouldn't feel insulted my husband takes me BOB shopping! I thought he's hinting something, but maybe he's just looking out for my "O's"

11/11/2006 01:31:00 PM  

Blogger Shoshana said...

Great job Harlot.

New title for you...

Harlot, the Sex Guru!

11/11/2006 01:34:00 PM  

Blogger Vanessa said...

Ok ladies, for those who are planning to get new toys to enjoy with your special someone, I have one that never fails me: Supersex Love Ring... very appropriate name I might add, lol. It's awesome for both parties. It feels great on the cock (of course I don't have one but that's what my man tells me ;D) and for us ladies, the vibrating on the clit area feels wonderful. :)

11/11/2006 02:01:00 PM  

Blogger Lollie Rose said...

Vanessa, I'm adding that to my list. Thanks! Anymore recommendations? Heh.

11/11/2006 02:35:00 PM  

Anonymous Michael said...

About time you post something for us guys. Great job.

11/11/2006 02:42:00 PM  

Blogger HOTMAMA said...

Vanessa, I think I bought one of those supersex love rings and never used it, lol. And I can't pull it out right now. Oh, hell, I have to see if it's the same thing

11/11/2006 02:46:00 PM  

Blogger HOTMAMA said...

The one I have is called a Techo Lover, but yours sounds like the same. A ring attaced to a nubby butterfly type stimulator?

I've heard that a guy shouldn't leave a cockring on too long, it restricts blood flow? Actuallly it may say that on the box, LOL>
But I would think both partners would feel the vibrations.....

11/11/2006 02:54:00 PM  

Blogger Danielle De Barbarac said...

It's official, YOU BBs ROCK!!! There's something about this post that made me talk to the boyfriend about BOBs hehehe ... actually I made him read this ppost and now we're getting some toys! Well, we're going to try some and I probably shouldn't be talking about this (don't want to jinx it) but he said he can't wait. So do I. :) Can you feel how excited I am????

11/11/2006 03:01:00 PM  

Blogger Vanessa said...

Danielle, try the supersex love rings! Yes, the book bitches rock! lol, am I the only one enjoying this?

Hotmama, I don't think I've tried that Techno Lover. Supersex Love Rings are fantastic. We first bought it in the supermarket, can you imagine? lol. We got it just for laughs and I am so thankful we did. ;) We've tried two brands already, Tracy Cox and Durex both have them. You can use the ring with or without vibrations so even if it has only 20 minutes battery life you can use it many times.

11/11/2006 03:46:00 PM  

Blogger Sabby said...

Great post! I've never used a BOB with my husband but BOB is my friend whenever he's away. Maybe it's time I introduce my friend to him, hehehe ...

11/11/2006 04:07:00 PM  

Anonymous karamia said...

One of my wisest friends once said "find a man that can give you an orgasm and you will never leave him"; so true, and the means by which that orgasm comes does not really matter. My husband is always looking for toys that I will love and he knows they aren't any replacement for him, but rather an enhancement for both of us. And I will never leave him!

11/11/2006 04:09:00 PM  

Blogger JAMESEE-ST-SMILE said...

good picture

11/11/2006 06:09:00 PM  

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Yes, you are right; I read your blog from time to time.

Rarely do I comment, as I have little to say about male-loving topics, at least as a heterosexual.

11/11/2006 07:07:00 PM  

Blogger Young at Heart in San Diego said...

Thanks for the great posts! I not only have a BOB, but I also have PHIL and lately, SHANE (Shower Head Allowing Neverending Extacy). Keep up the great writing, and thanks for your inspiration.

11/13/2006 12:14:00 AM  

Blogger MisbehavinAngel said...

Thanks, Harlot! Hopefully a lot of guys are going to read this.


11/13/2006 12:22:00 PM  

Blogger Harlot said...

YAH in SD,
Thanks. :D I hope you didn't expect me to type your long nick. :P Eheh. Hey what does PHIL stands for? Hope you visit us often!

Hey Sanna! :D So happy to "see" you here. Hope your cutie Luke is doing great. :)

11/13/2006 01:36:00 PM  

Blogger C Bradshaw said...

BOGs? LOL! Love this BBs! BOBs definitely add something to a couple's lovemaking. And it removes inhibitions. I think it's always a good thing to spice up a couple's love life. :)

11/13/2006 02:17:00 PM  

Anonymous Ollenska said...

OMG, men should read this article. I know some people, men and women who are intimidated of BOB. I think when they see a BOB, they immediately think it's dirty or freaky. I guess most people don't grasp the concept that it's just a toy and that it should be viewed not only as women's 'little helper' but also as an aid to couples for better sex. Great post Harlot.

11/13/2006 07:30:00 PM  

Blogger Young at Heart in San Diego said...

Hi Harlot, I kinda like to be called YAH! PHIL is my good friend: "Plug-in when Horny Interim Lover"
I wrote about BoB and him here:

11/13/2006 09:59:00 PM  

Anonymous Jess said...

Great blog! I really hope a lot of boyfriends and husbands are going to read this. Rock on bitches!


12/05/2006 03:02:00 AM  

Anonymous Josh said...

I would have to say that i've personally never had an issue with a viabrator joining in on the action. In fact they even seem like a good tool for your lady to use as practice for the real thing, as long as she doesn't become too attached! I must admit though the 15 inch black ones are a bit intimidating.

I have a tip for you ladies that don't mind massaging the 'heat-seeking moisture missile' from time to time. Don't be too rough! An overly firm grip in combination with an aggressive technique can send even the toughest of men squirming like they've just been kicked in the balls! This doesn't apply to intercourse but unlike its plastic, vibrating counterpart the 'real penis' does have feelings and must be handled accordingly!

Painful and/or bad hand jobs is one of the biggest complaints amongst us blokes, even though most of us would agree that it was the thought that counted :). Firm but not rough is the go and believe it or not rhythm plays a big part!

It almost feels gay to be giving advice on how to wank a penis, but i guess in the end it could even work in my favor! :)

1/13/2007 11:02:00 AM  

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Fasionably late reply I know :$

Well said Josh :-)

Ok... So while I have no problem with insertible sex toys, I do have a problem with us men being made to feel like freaks and like we have broken a law by not liking them. Can anyone on here honestly tell me that's it's not a cheap and easy way to get off?? I would rather do it manually for my girlfriend :-)

Can anyone honestly tell me that regular play with sex toys (which is what you are encouraging) where women are experiencing much greater feelings and orgasms than any man can give them, don't feel either bored or un-satisfied when making love where a sex toy isn't involved, even if they do orgasm?? I don't think so. But I would still like to give it my bloody best try for my girlfriend and not be considered a weirdo.

I dunno what i'm hoping to achieve by posting this on a blog obviously dominated by females.

I'm allowed to not want a dildo incorporated in my relationship and it is just as normal as the opposite :-)

6/12/2007 05:35:00 PM  

Blogger Harlot said...

Hello Anon and Josh,

We welcome all opinions here as long as they're expressed nicely. ;) Now, i don't recall ever saying that those who don't like BOBs are freaks/weirdos because i would never think that. I'm just saying that if your partner wants to use a BOB, please don't be alarmed, insulted, embarrassed or think SHE thinks you're not enough. BOBs are just toys--for fun and for variety (like different positions :P).

Can anyone honestly tell me that regular play with sex toys regular play with sex toys (which is what you are encouraging) where women are experiencing much greater feelings and orgasms than any man can give them, don't feel either bored or un-satisfied when making love where a sex toy isn't involved, even if they do orgasm??

I gotta tell you, when i'm with my man, i rarely use a BOB. Yep. The thing with BOBs, it's FUN to use it with him. I have to mention masturbating. I find it very, very sexy to watch my man stroke himself. I know he too loves it when i touch myself in front of him. This is an example where you could, sometimes, use a BOB.

You know, with of all the BOB posts i've done LOL, someone actually asked me which one i prefer: a dildo or a cock? I said it depends with what mood you're in. We would all like to have a lover always ready to give us a hand, wouldn't we? But there are different circumstances. If you want to make love with someone, a BOB will disappoint you, but if you fancy a quick frig, a BOB is bloody fantabulous.

I would never say a BOB comes anywhere close to being with a real man. Never. And BOBs will never give me the satisfaction and bliss i get with the real thing. ;)

Now, Anon, give your bloody best try? I reckon your gf is lucky because that's all what women want really. Welcome and i REALLY hope you boys join our discussion often. :)

6/12/2007 06:50:00 PM  

Anonymous Anonymous said...

I posted a reply but it doesn't seem to have come up :-\

I wasn't supposed to come across in an un-nasty way, Harlot. Just I feel that in your article you are basically saying that there is no reason to not want an insertable sex toy in a relationship when I feel it is perfectly valid to not want a sex toy in a relationship, I also hear lots of 'Most men would love for their girlfriends to use a dildo/vibrator in front of them', which does make me feel a little weird.

I loooove my girl masturbating in front of me too, albeit, manually. Although she can't get herself there :-(

Thanks for that part, Harlot. Interesting, as I assumed a vibrator would have been much better than a man in any situation. That's not my reason for not wanting one though, my reason is that I LOVE to play with her, I could do it all day and not have penetrative sex with her, usually her vagina is two sore anyway after I masturbate her to orgasm. Basically, I don't think it will add anything and see it as un-natural anyway. I also think it is a cheap and easy thrill, even so, I have told her that she can use one alone and I won't mind atall.

Thanks Harlot.

6/13/2007 01:02:00 PM  

Blogger Harlot said...

Anon, i don't think your comment is nasty. :P We love hearing from our readers, agreeing or opposing. Of course once in a while we get nasty comments from folks who are just picking a fight.

We don't delete comments here unless they are spam. So i don't know what happened with your comment. :/ It's Blogger's fault; sometimes it happens.

Anyway, i agree, it's perfectly valid to not want a sex toy in a relationship. Just saying, nothing to loose in trying them, right? Of course, in sex, you should do what feels good for you and your partner. Who am i to say you should use a BOB when you don't want one?

I love a man's hand. You can say i have a thing for it. I think it's one of the most attractive part of a man. How masculine it looks, its shape and size and how strong it seems... *sigh* I certainly prefer it than a BOB. ;)

6/13/2007 03:45:00 PM  

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well I think that depends on the person as to whether there is anything to lose. I don't want a foreign object in my relationship and I would never be able to look at her the same again after she has got off on what is basically a phallic shaped piece of vibrating plastic. Very harsh I know, but I would love to keep our intimacy intact. Even so, I am kinda meeting her in the middle, I have got her some of that 'Flower Power Lip Balm Orgasm Enhancer' which I have heard good things about :)

6/14/2007 08:29:00 AM  

Anonymous Adult Toy said...

very beautiful and sexy photos....

11/25/2008 01:53:00 AM  

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Men should learn to enjoy their wife's vibrators and wives should encourage it.

For the last couple of months, my wife and I have been enjoying her vibrators together, but not as wildly as on Valentines. I've never been interested in getting much enjoyment from my wife's vibrators before then, but I had read about how men can enjoy vibrators online. We are both ok with this and it is not something that I pushed her into doing. It is something I discovered brings me much pleasure and she says she's never seen me get so stimulated.

My wife bought us some Valentine’s Day chocolate body paint for about $10. at Wal-Greens Drug Store here in N.C. I had bought her a Real Skin Latin Big Boss vibrator for her birthday on January 24.

We put the body paint on each other. The we kissed and licked it off. I used the vibrator in her to bring her to a climax while I licked the chocolate body paint off of her breasts and nipples. After her orgasm, I slid it between her breasts and added some chocolate to it. As we embraced we licked the vibrator together.

Then, she mounted on top of me and rubed the vibrator between my pecs while I pinched my nipples. As she rode me, I took the vibrator and decided to suck it to removed the rest of the chocolate from it. The combined sensation of the taste, the vibration and sucking drove me absolutely wild as I climaxed inside my wife. Then she put chocolate on my privates and gave me a blow job while using the other vibrator to stimulate my prostrate and scrotum as I continued to suck on that other vibrator with some more chocolate on it.

BTW, we did cover our queen size bed with a cheep vynal table cloth so as to not mess up the sheet with the chocolate.

She is still talking about that vibrator and that wild Valentine's Day. My wife told me that she now considers her vibrators ours since we both enjoy them. We love our new found freedom in sex as a couple married since 1988 and in our 50's. This new vibrator has been the most talked about gift ever and it is one that keeps giving much pleasure to us both.

3/20/2009 07:01:00 PM  

Blogger cleondann said...

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12/22/2009 01:35:00 AM  

Blogger ethan1066 said...

with the help of sex toys one can get the pleasure she is not getting from their men and if so i dont think their would be any problem for any one using such butterfly vibrator ..even in case of just for fun is not a big crime....

2/06/2010 07:18:00 AM  

Anonymous Strap Ons said...

We aren't afraid, we're just afraid of those hot girls :D

6/05/2010 07:00:00 PM