Ch-ch-ch-cheating
Oh, the wonders of the romance genre... Sometimes they make me laugh till the point of tears; most of the time they have me pulling my beautiful hair out by the handfuls.
Last night I finished reading my first Lisa Kleypas novel, Dreaming of You. The book in itself wasn’t remarkable (I’ve read better and I’ve definitely read worse) but something that happened halfway into the story really caught my attention, and to a point, spoilt the rest of the story for me: HE CHEATED**!
Cheating commonly refers to forms of infidelity, particularly adultery. With regard to human relationships, couples may expect sexual monogamy of each other. However, many people consider cheating to be any violation of the mutually agreed-upon rules or boundaries of a relationship, which may or may not include sexual monogamy.
Apparently, Derek was so devastated after making Sara leave he decided to shag a wench who physically resembled her. Then the proverbial whore with the heart of gold goes on to tell Sara ALL about it! And yeah, you guessed it, our dimwitted heroine was so touched by the heart-warming*** tale, she then realizes how much she loves our pervert of a hero and runs back to him!!!
I wonder, how can you trust a man after that? Is it true what the old adage says, “once a cheater, always a cheater”? And even if it’s not, how much are we really willing to forgive and forget?
I have been cheated on and I’m not as forgiving and pure of heart *gag* as Sara is. There is no way in hell I’m staying with a cheater. I don’t care if it was his first time, if he got “confused” and found himself cock-deep inside a geisha, if he tripped and his wily landed in a hoochie mama’s mouth—I DO NOT CARE what his excuse is. If you cheat, I’m gone!
And yet I hear of so many women that forgive men for cheating all the time. “I’m staying because of the kids,” “I’m not leaving him to another woman after so many years,” “He’s really sorry, he’s promised not to do it again.” Please, someone explain this to me like I’m a 5-year-old because I honestly don’t get it!
I searched for some statistics on cheating (wanted to trash all the adulterous male bastards out there *g*) and was SHOCKED by the numbers I got, especially the female ones! *gasp* Ladies, you are almost as bad as the men!
There are very clear limitations to what infidelity statistics can tell us; we do not know how honest the respondents are, whether they claim to not have affairs out of shame, or boast of affairs they didn’t have.
- 22% of men and 14% of women admitted to having sexual relations outside their marriage sometime in their past.
- Recent studies reveal that 45-55% of married women and 50-60% of married men engage in extramarital sex at some time or another during their relationship. (This means that 28-38% of men and 31-41% of women lie about adultery; compare these to the first stats! What did you expect of a cheater anyway? LOL)
- Researchers think the vast majority of the millions of people who visit chat rooms, have multiple “special friends.” (Ladies, beware of women like Harlot who lurk chat rooms to engage men in clandestine sexual depravities!)
- A lesser known fact is that those who divorce rarely marry the person with whom they are having the affair. Very few men who have affairs divorce their wife and marry their lovers. (Then why are women asking these men to divorce their wives? I’d rather him with the wife than leaving me for some other skank.)
- 8-10% of Internet users become hooked on cybersex. (We need to get Harlot some help. *sniff* I had no idea this thing with her was a medical problem.)
- 57% of people have used the Internet to flirt; 31% of people have had an online conversation that has led to real-time sex (Now this blew me away! I had no idea so many people out there had sticky keyboards!)
- Look at the numbers from Playboy magazine:
- 2 out of 3 women and 3 out of 4 men admit they have sexual thoughts about co-workers.
- 86% of men and 81% of women admit they routinely flirt with the opposite sex. (I’m in this group. *wink*)
- 75% of men and 65% of women admit to having sex with people they work with. (Oh god, and here I was coming into work and not “coming” LOL. Might have to work on that. :P)
- The fact is that human beings are NOT monogamous by nature. That means they cheat. (100% sure this statement was written by a cheater!)
- Experts say that a gut instinct is the most powerful indicator of a cheating lover. Adultery statistics state that 85% of woman who feel their lover is cheating are correct. 50% of men who feel their lover is cheating are right.
- What really makes a guy cheat?
- Is your guy hooking up at work?
- Should I cheat on my husband?
- 10 questions to ask your unfaithful spouse
- 32 emotional signs that he’s cheating
- Is this a dangerous crush?
- The home cheating test
- Is your partner cheating? test
***You know what? I do the same thing all the time! Whenever I hear of my man shagging other women blind, I just can’t contain the happiness it brings me and I love him all the more for his cheating ways! GIVE ME A FUCKING BREAK, MS. KLEYPAS. HOW IS CHEATING, WHILE PORKING A PROSTITUTE, ROMANTIC?
Labels: for the love of rakes and rogues, romance baby, sex and the bitches
maximo said...
i would assume a goodly percentage of men who claimed to have cheated were lying.
by god, your site is script-heavy.
8/03/2006 04:34:00 PM
Jordis Juice said...
Call me a hopeless romantic dolt, but I want to think there are many men out there who, even after years of being together with their partners, will still be faithful NO MATTER WHAT. Otherwise, what are we all doing then?
Trollop, great post! Love the car LOL and the personal ad! LMAO
8/03/2006 05:37:00 PM
Anonymous said...
Hi, my name is D and I've flirted on-line, and it has lead to real-time sex.
Okay, so I won't do phone sex while I'm at work and my DH flirts with me via email and texting me. And yeah, it lead to real sex, I mean real-time sex.
I have to look at those stats with a jaded eye. How do they know how many spouses didn't know about the activity? How is affair defined? Sex, dating, flirting, kissing, what? Just because there's not all-out sex doesn't mean he/she did't cheat, IMO.
I agree with youf assessment of cheating heros in romance novels. There are a few authors that I rabidly avoid now because I don't consider stepping out on the heroine as romantic.
8/03/2006 05:47:00 PM
C Bradshaw said...
OMG Whose car is that??! Too funny! LOL
I am ashamed to say this but I cheated once. Oh god, extremely shame. This was years ago anyway and it's over and NOT happening again. I ended up being alone when my boyfriend at the time found out I was entertaining another guy. I don't blame him. It was wrong of me to do so and there's no excuse. :( The thing is, while I was seeing the other guy, I kept thinking, it couldn't be that bad, but it was.
8/03/2006 05:47:00 PM
Scott from Oregon said...
I'm sure all you ladies have read through this site. My guts tell me that this is a put on, but a well done one. Either way, it is an amusing read. Start from the beginning and move chronologically forward for best effect...
http://thatgirlemily.blogspot.com/
There was a gun weilding bitch following me home today. She kept waving her pistol out her window and yelling "woohoo!"
Does anybody know her?
8/03/2006 06:06:00 PM
Ladybug said...
Trollop, I loved Dreaming of You! :P
Anyway, those stats are way too high. 50-60 percent?!? Makes you wonder if your partner is cheating. Also, what is wrong with men? That bit with the husband leaving his wife because he's having an affair but still didn't end up with the other woman, what's up with that? Not that I'm condoning cheating and leaving one's wife.
I think by nature man likes variety. But if you love someone, you learn to control yourself.
8/03/2006 06:09:00 PM
Franny said...
I love your blog! I totally agree with your rant, and want you to know that the whole 'stand by your man' shit occurs in MANY romance novels, not to mention my g/fs lives.
Then, when he doesn't leave his wife, they are SOOOOO surprised!
8/03/2006 06:19:00 PM
Jolie said...
It's true, most men cheat. But I don't believe in the saying "once a cheater always a cheater". I think most people change after having an affair. If you've been together for so long, at least give him that ONE chance. That is, IF you can still trust him, if he truly repented his fucking sins, and that he'll be your slave forever. Otherwise, yeah, it's better to just leave.
Good post, Trollop!
8/03/2006 06:38:00 PM
Dakota Cassidy said...
I'm a firm believer that some men and even women can reform after an affair. I had a good friend who's marriage survived it.
However, mine didn't and he wasn't a one-timer either. He was an upscale proffesional with a willy that just wouldn't stay put.
Yep, I stayed until #3. Yep, it was scary. Yep we'd been married 19 years. Yep, I would have toughed anything out to save my sons from the kind of divorce I had. The kind I KNEW I'd have and surely did. I would have stayed until they were out of the house. But I just couldn't anymore.
Nope, I sure as hell don't regret it now. There is nothing like empowering yourself and stipping a vicious cycle when someone abuses your heart.
ANd look at me now, huh? LOLLOLLOLLOL
Yes, Scott--that was "look out ladies, look out ladies." Snort.
DC :)
8/03/2006 07:20:00 PM
Rachel said...
Forgiving someone for cheating is really your choice. When someone cheated on you, the question is: Can you trust him/her again?
If you feel like you can trust them again or the incident was due to the influence of some outside source (like alcohol or something of that nature) then the answer will be yes, you can forgive them. If you don't feel like you trust them again though then don't fool yourself and waste their time or yours because without trust then you have nothing.
Trollop, love that car!
8/03/2006 07:20:00 PM
Lorelei said...
I'd forgive a cheater but I don't know if I'd go out with him again. If he cheated on me it probably means our relationship is missing something. If he's a good guy and sincerely apologized and tried to work it out, I MAY give it a try. Humans are humans, they make mistakes and everyone deserves a second chance. If it happens again, I'll drop him. The question is are you willing to risk your heart to find out if he's really the one?
8/03/2006 07:35:00 PM
Anonymous said...
VT, I have to admit I too do not like my heroes & heroines seeing other people outside in the book, once they've met each other. I find it unromantic at best, and nauseating at worst. But I can tolerate & understand it if the character wasn't w/their loved one and didn't think they'd ever see them again. I still don't like it, but I can forgive it. I can't forgive it if the cheating occurs while they're together (or worse while they're married). It's just unrealistic that they would be able to stay together and have a healthy relationship once that trust is broken.
I agree that the heroine being touched by hero's infidelity since he only did it because prostitute resembled the heroine is...well, pathetic, lol! Give me a break!
8/03/2006 07:47:00 PM
Anonymous said...
Ok its is simple for me: Cheating=bad.
If you commit to someone, you stay that way until you can't THEN YOU TELL THE OTHER PERSON. Cheating is a cowards way of trying to have everything at once.
However, dreaming of you... great book and that was never cheating! The heroine went home to marry some chinless wonder as I recall, so I think the hero had free rights to hump where his bits led him. The pretending it was the heroine thing was a bit creepy, Sort of romantic stalking, but I still didn't think it was cheating
And I just love the car!!!
8/03/2006 08:11:00 PM
Maria said...
I hope... that I have enough sense to kick the *daft* ba@t*rd to the f-ing curb! One does wonder... it's the whole being alone thing. I have said it myself, *(shameful as it it)* better to be with the devil you know than the devil you don't know. Now someone slap me! ~M
8/03/2006 08:15:00 PM
Serendipity said...
Trollop, I love that book, and I just completely blocked out Derek's confuse penis. Really.
Cheating...it's like broken egg. Try putting it together, it's never the same. Have kids? If wife is not independently wealthy, they tend to stay. I meet a few. It's sad, but it's a fact.
I always figure, cheating is way too much work. So, if one is tired with current relationship, what the fuck is wrong with breaking up and starting another?
I'm with you on cheating. It ruins a book for me, unless I can ignore it, in which case, I end up keeping the book for re-read later.
I love the Home Cheating Test....better than pregnancy test.
8/03/2006 08:19:00 PM
C... said...
It's shit like this that makes me sure being divorced is a blessing. I will never know if my ex cheated and perhaps he did not but our relationship had other betrayals such as financial lies, etc.
I can never imagine being married again - hearing those stats. I read them but they were loud, very loud.
8/03/2006 08:43:00 PM
Dev said...
I lived with a cheater...we were together for three years, and I don't know how much of that he cheated on me...but, I'm pretty sure it was at least for the last year. I don't know how many women he cheated with and I don't ever want to. Luckily, that part of my life is over.
That being said, Derek and Sara in DOY were not in a committed relationship at the time.....He'd sent her away, thinking it was what was best for her, and truly didn't think he'd ever see her again. I don't consider that cheating. I may consider it stupid ~ but not cheating.
8/03/2006 09:05:00 PM
Danielle De Barbarac said...
Devonna, I agree with you. Derek didn't cheat, but that was stupid. Actually I love that Kleypas book. LOL
I think when it comes to cheating, you really can't say when it's over. I mean second chances can be healthy, so long there are no grudges. Also be on the look-out.
People say "Once a cheater, always a cheater." That is not always true. Some learn from the experience and do very well and are a better person afterwards because of the lesson.
Great post, Trollop. :)
8/03/2006 09:15:00 PM
Lollie Rose said...
I hate books with a cheating hero. He doesn't even deserve to be called a hero! I've yet to encounter a cheating heroine but I'd hate that one as well.
Usually, people cheat because they have issues with themselves, sometimes they cheat because there is unresolved or untold issues in the marriage, and sometimes they cheat because the opportunity is there. It doesn't matter what his/her reason is, you may forgive cheating but there's no way you'll forget it.
8/03/2006 09:37:00 PM
Menchie said...
I've always told my hubby in our "what if" discussions that if he ever cheated on me, I'd leave him and take the kids with me.
However, I've also learned that you never really know for sure how you're going to react, what you're going to do, until the situation is staring you right at the face.
I've had my cocky bitch moments when I thought I knew what I was going to do only to react differently at the moment of truth.
I don't condone cheaters, though I believe some are capable of reforming. But I also know that the capacity of women for love and forgiveness is boundless.
8/03/2006 09:59:00 PM
Polly King said...
Re: How much are we willing to forgive and forget?
Cheating is hard to explain and to take. But if you know without a doubt it is over, and you want to move on, somehow it's easy. Your forgiveness is NOT for his sake, but for yourself. By forgiving, you will leave the burden behind and possibly open your heart for true love. Not forgiving will be harder and hurt only you. I say, forgive and move on!
8/03/2006 10:02:00 PM
Isabella said...
Maximo, just Trollop and Harlot, and they are HOT. ;) We love those two BBs. :)
Personally, I don't condone cheating, so once my partner crosses that line I am out. There is absolutely NO EXCUSE for infidelity as far as I am concerned. It's typical for men/women to cheat and then apologize and expect to be forgiven, it's not that easy when you are the person that was cheated on.
8/03/2006 10:23:00 PM
maximo said...
thank you, isabella.
fyi, fwiw, every single one of you would take me back. i'm that adorable.
8/03/2006 10:27:00 PM
Isabella said...
Maximo, LOL, are you confessing you are a cheater? :P
8/03/2006 10:33:00 PM
Anonymous said...
Polly, thanks for that. My BF and I have been together since we were 16. About 2 yrs ago we had a long distance relationship. Anyway he cheated on me during that time. I tried to dump him but he was so persistent, he wouldn't let me go. Anyway I ended up forgiving him and our relationship is better than ever. But if I find out he's doing it again, then it's over.
Love the car, Trollop!
Olly
8/03/2006 10:42:00 PM
maximo said...
isa,
don't think of it as "two-timing". think of it more as "time-sharing".
trollollipop,
you so are the kissing whore of babylon. don't deny it. and your boobs are crooked.
8/03/2006 10:48:00 PM
Harlot said...
Maximo,
I think YOUR eyes are crooked. LOL Probably with all that "time sharing."
8/03/2006 10:53:00 PM
Lily Moon said...
There's no way I will forgive a cheater. Not again. I did it once and accepted the bastard back, apparently he thought that first time wasn't enough and did it again!
8/03/2006 10:58:00 PM
maximo said...
harlo,
'ello, love! i've been waiting all day for you.
8/03/2006 11:12:00 PM
Scott from Oregon said...
Who is this Maximo? Why is he hiding behind a cartoon?
Only the truly studly present their photos for the perusal of the bitches....
AND WHERE IS MY GUN WEILDING BITCH?
I just found a short essay my seventy year old mum wrote about buying a bikini in Lebanon, cleaning diapers in a Jerusalem bathtub, and Italian men...
I admit it. I stole it out of her doc files and posted it on my home page because I'm lazy and had to write something in my goddamn blog...
Crooked in what way? I mean, there is good crooked, and not so good crooked...
Look Out Ladies!
8/03/2006 11:20:00 PM
Dakota Cassidy said...
Do I sense a smidge of green with envy, Scott? Look out, ladies!
DC :)
8/03/2006 11:25:00 PM
Harlot said...
Hullo Maximo,
Waiting for me all day? Hmm.
And it's Harlot. Love. *g*
Scott,
GWB is probably out having fun with some hotties. What can i say? Men love her guns. :P
Hey Dakota!
How are you gorgeous? Say hi to R for me. :)
8/03/2006 11:28:00 PM
Dakota Cassidy said...
LOL--I'm good, doll, you?
DC :)
8/03/2006 11:35:00 PM
Harlot said...
Fine. Thanks. :D I'll be better though if i have some chocolate cake here. Oh god, craving for those!
8/03/2006 11:39:00 PM
maximo said...
well, maybe not all day. let's say, since 4pm.
ah. harlot. because you're the naughty one. naughty, naughty, naughty.
well, both of you, don't stay up too late thinking of me.
8/03/2006 11:40:00 PM
Scott from Oregon said...
I hope GWB is popping caps into maximos pulsatory ass...
What cowardice!
"Hi. I'm maximo. This is a photo of... (what the hell is that thing, anyway? A wizard?) what I'm aspiring toward. Ow! Stop capping me in my pulsatory ass!"
GWB is supposed to be stalking ME! I put out the few racoon traps I own, as well as a bottle of JD.
I tied my dogs up and found the newest pair of underwear I own.
I even sprayed BO juice down my pec cleavage...
Now... What were y'all saying about sex after online fornication?
8/03/2006 11:42:00 PM
Vanessa said...
I don't think I can forgive my BF if he cheats on me. I mean, why would he do it in the first place if he loves me? I just couldn't accept that.
Great topic, Trollop! And that car LOL, too funny!
8/03/2006 11:42:00 PM
Scott from Oregon said...
Look Out Ladies!
8/03/2006 11:44:00 PM
Dev said...
...well, there's always the option of splitting amicably. Invite the cheater over and feed him catfood tuna sandwiches and ex-lax brownies.
Of course, I'm not saying I ever did this.....................
8/04/2006 12:02:00 AM
Jordis Juice said...
Devona! LOL Oh god, that is good.
Of course. Not suggesting you did it. *wink* :P
8/04/2006 12:08:00 AM
Jolie said...
Menchie, I agree. "However, I've also learned that you never really know for sure how you're going to react, what you're going to do, until the situation is staring you right at the face."
Also about women having boundless capacity to forgive and to love. So true. It's a curse if you ask me.
Sometimes, even if we think we're not going to forgive and accept a partner who cheated on us, when faced with the situation, you find yourself doing exactly what you swore you'll never do. I think if a person can live with it, and that the cheating partner wouldn't do it again, it's fine to give a second chance.
This is great topic, thanks Trollop. Loving this!
8/04/2006 01:08:00 AM
Anonymous said...
Hello, the italian girl appears again!
Sorry, but I don't agree with you on Derek's supposed cheating. Like others said, their relationship was kind of 'over' at that time and Derek thought that he was not going to see her ever again. In my mind, it's cheating when the other person in the relationship expects you to be faithful because of some sort of committment you have made.
Instead, in this case, Sara was ready to marry another (and even ready to take this relationship to the next level).
It's not like I appreciated it, but the setting of that book was not all roses, and I found it realistic.
That said, like you and many others, I hate cheating, whether two persons are married or just committed.
I'm all for ending the relationship after the cheating, to say the truth.
8/04/2006 03:59:00 AM
M.Amanda said...
I share tisty's view of fidelity. If you're in an exclusive relationship and find you don't care enough about the other person to not screw around with others, it's time to end it. Then you can act, but not before - that's just skanky. If you do care, why risk hurting that person?
Within the first year of my relationship with my boyfriend (together 10 years now), there was a rumor that he cheated. I don't know if it was skanky bitches trying to hurt us or if it was really true, but he came to me asap to say this is what people are saying, this is what happened, I didn't and wouldn't cheat on you, I care about you and don't want you to be hurt by this.
There were no other signs that he wasn't honest with me, something I couldn't say about the people spreading the rumor, so I took his word for it. Since then there has been no hint that he isn't totally faithful.
If he was a repeat offender, I'd definitely kick him to the curb, regardless of what we've shared for 10 years. But I honestly don't know how I'd react to a one-time slip. Yeah, I'd be furious and wouldn't let him off easy. But people screw up, sometimes badly. Does it make sense to throw away something special over a lesson learned the hard way?
But then I don't know if I could trust him again. It's a very personal thing.
I also agree with the Italian girl: sounds like they weren't even together. No commitment; not cheating.
8/04/2006 09:02:00 AM
Harlot said...
Sigh. Babe, you know i believe in the same thing. Unfortunately.
I can forgive infidelity (in time) but i don't think i can live with it. It's just too fucking hard. Maybe i'm just too vain to accept he'd find someone as irresistible as me. LOL :-P
Italian Girl,
Where have you been?
Sparkling Cipher,
I agree. If you're in a committed relationship and find yourself wanting to be with another person, for god's sake break it off first with your partner, then do whatever you want! Don't be a coward and a selfish fuckwit, not to mention you'll hurt someone you've been with for a long time. No excuse.
8/04/2006 12:56:00 PM
Harlot said...
Hotmama,
Unless you're already dead LOL, you still get attracted to other people even if you're involve with someone else. But do you act on it? NO. (Unless of course you're in an open relationship and you're both okay with having sex with other people.) I think it's the same with having sexual fantasies. But if you're talking about thinking you'd rather be with someone else while you're doing it with your partner, then that's different altogether.
About masturbating as cheating, I disagree. LOL What are you gonna accuse your partner of doing? "You prick, you're cheating on me with YOUR OWN HANDS!" Seems silly to me. ;)
8/04/2006 01:18:00 PM
Jordis Juice said...
Harlot LOL.
Hotmama, I think swinging is fun :P IF you're both into it. I mean, whatever pulls your chain, right?
About sexual fantasies, I don't think it's cheating, especially when you're actually sharing it with your partner. I think it actually makes your relationship stronger that you trust each other enough to share such things and still find a way to be together. :)
8/04/2006 01:29:00 PM
Bobbie (Sunny) Cole said...
THIS blog post made my day - ROFLMAO. (especially the stats on who must be lying)
8/04/2006 02:02:00 PM
Kiah-Monique said...
Ha! Know thats funny and not at all surprising.
8/04/2006 02:31:00 PM
maximo said...
oh. you're all still talking about cheating and why it's not ok.
8/04/2006 02:56:00 PM
maximo said...
hello, gunny.
i have to admit i find you somewhat intimidating. you are one scary dude.
but i would never give chase to any girl sight unseen. for all i know they might have floppy drooping butts.
i'm just deciding whether i should try to make them famous.
8/04/2006 03:15:00 PM
maximo said...
i don't think i pay attention to s.w.a.t. people's butts so i'll have to take your word for it. anyway, i didn't mean you. (besides, aren't you and whatshisname together or something?)
8/04/2006 03:49:00 PM
Anonymous said...
Trollop, love the car and the stats! LOL
Great discussion!
8/04/2006 06:05:00 PM
Scott from Oregon said...
There is nothing badass about SWAT members. They get all dolled up in armor, helmets and face sheilds, then hut hut hut their way around a building while some skinny speed freak puts a carrot to his head and threatens to stick it in his ear.
Every now and then I've met a cop who would intimidate me without the gun and the badge-- yeah, like once in thirty years...
The big cops all have lard asses. The hard as a rock weight lifting cops are all about five nine or less. They puff out their chests like chickens do and swagger around like turkeys in need of chiropractic care.
The women cops...
Well, at least they have their pistols....
I had two local sheriffs come to my front porch about two years ago on a suspected DUI. I had to get them something to stand on in order to stick a flashlight in my eyes and tell me they've made a horrible mistake...
And GWB-- that was you? I get that all the time...
8/04/2006 07:13:00 PM
Mailyn said...
LMAO!!!!!!!! that car was da shietz. oh, and like everyone said, D man didn't cheat. it was supposed to be over for ever and ever for them. and yes, that's my fave Kleypas book. and yes, I do believe that 90% of men and about 85% of women cheat. but that's me and I'm a pessimist and I also think most people suck. but not the good kind of sucking. lol.
loved the post as usual ;-P
8/04/2006 07:24:00 PM
Joey B said...
Why do you expect monomgamy?
8/04/2006 10:11:00 PM
Lola Lovegood said...
I agree with Dakota about trying to save your marriage for your children. I've been married for 17 yrs (married at 19; very young I know).
When DH and I had been married for 3 years (our daughter had just been born) he admited to cheating with an ex-gf just before we got married. I couldn't take it, it made me so sad I couldn't even look at him without an overwhelming sense of hurt and anger.
I left to my parents for two months. During that time he begged and grovelled but I would not forgive him. I wouldn't even let him see our daughter (which was very wrong of me). And then one day while holding my baby I knew that I could not keep her away from her father because I was hurt and knew that she deserved more from me.
I packed my things and went home. We talked about it and it took me a long time to trust him again, I'm not sure I'll ever trust him 100% again but things are good between us. During the last fourteen years he's behaved impecably.
Would I take him back if he did it again children or no children? NO. but I think when there are kids involved giving a person ONE chance has to be considered.
Great post! and Harlot if DH cheats again, I'll contract your car painting services! LMAO
8/05/2006 02:15:00 PM
maximo said...
trollollipop,
of course you would. but only because you find me that irresistable. i'd have to say "no" though--because i'm a good boy, not a homewrecker.
p.s.--the council has informed me that i am not to make you and harley famous. sorry.
8/06/2006 12:19:00 AM
Harlot said...
Oh Max, you poor boy... Are you drunk again?
8/06/2006 12:51:00 AM
Maddie said...
If my husband cheated on me there would be no help for reconciliation. I would leave his ass in a nanosecond. I might still love him...and I might even get around to forgiving him...but the relationship would be OVA. I aint fixing to live my life wondering why he's five minutes late.
8/06/2006 10:38:00 AM
Scott from Oregon said...
A good friend of mine had a girlfriend who would DREAM that he cheated on her. She wouldn't talk to him for a week because of what she imagined in her sleep.
Look Out Ladies!
I wrote a story about me Mum's vagina. You should see it...
(the story, not the vagina)
http://aeleope.blogspot.com/
Look Out Ladies!
8/06/2006 02:10:00 PM
Anonymous said...
Cheating is intolerable. If a guy cheats on you, the only thing to do is dump him. I believe in that saying "once a cheater, always a cheater." Why? Because based from experience I know it's a fact.
8/06/2006 02:24:00 PM
maximo said...
hi harley,
no. and yes.
i've not been boozing. i'm just intoxicated by your sexy essence.
8/06/2006 08:31:00 PM
Harlot said...
Max,
LOL There is no cure for what's been ailing you.
8/06/2006 09:12:00 PM
maximo said...
one lick of a trollollipop will do wonders for me.
at least, that's what the doctor says.
8/06/2006 09:36:00 PM
Lily Moon said...
Trollop, you're too funny! Harlot will surely get a lot of customers for her car painting service. Haha
I love this thread. Thanks!
8/07/2006 08:23:00 PM
Serendipity said...
There is no cure for cheaters. They just get really good at hiding.
They should be tatooed on their forehead so that women will shag them at their peril. or men for that matter.
8/11/2006 12:18:00 AM
Anonymous said...
Thank you! Good job! If you're interested here are some signs of a cheating husband...
1/17/2008 11:30:00 AM
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