Now, those of you who like older men, say aye. *g*
What? Nay? Liar. :P It’s a known fact women are attracted to older men. I don’t mean a 26-year-old like me dating a 76-year-old geezer who needs Viagra before His Robin and His Merry Men could function OMGWTFBBQ. Dears, that’s not attraction, that’s affliction. :/
I’m talking about women wanting a strong and confident man. In the days of yore, this meant an egg fertilizer who looks more of a caveman than a baboon and could hunt to feed his family while protecting them from saber-toothed cats and giant beavers. Lucky for us, today we now have sperm clinics, butchers and policemen from the zoo! YAY!
Oh, a woman still EXPECTS a man to provide for his family—but in this era of TV soap operas, she now expects her man to be mature, know who he is/what he wants/sure he’s not gay, and provide financial stability and long-term security. Yes yes, these can be found in most men over 18 but more often than not, women correlate older men with the CAPABILITY of providing said traits and an oh-so-pritti Birkin. :D
In favor of the older man. Women want to be wooed, and ohhh... older men KNOW how to do it. I.e.: Instead of inviting you to a friend’s party, they invite you to an out of town concert. Something that most young men wouldn’t think of because they can’t afford it—or their mama won’t allow them, Xenu forbid!
There’s also the fact that older men are more experienced, and with experience comes muchos better performance. *ahem* It’s true: like fine wine, they get better with age... *g* Add his graceful ways, proper grooming, dressing well, that certain hot-hot-HOT sexiness of I-have-seen-the-world-fuck-off, and smelling good whilst kissing you and sitting in his comfortable car. Oi, muuuuy delicioso. ;)
On dating an older man. When I was 20, I dated a 35-year-old guy. He was Mr. Super-Sexy-Smart-Smooth; I was Bounce-Bouncy-Shy. (What? I could be shy! *hmph*) After the first awkward date, we found some common interest and started from there. The fact that he’s a fantastic kisser, mmm mmm... didn’t hurt at all, hee. :P The TRICK is this: (a) Find a common ground that will let your relationship to be successful. (b) If your interests are completely different, heck, just embrace it and RUN with it! I.e.: Instead of pouting that I dunno what he’s talking about, I listened to him—and he did too. We learned a thing or two from each other. *g* Plus, he likes to cook; I like to eat. He likes books; I like to read. He loves oohs and aahs; I... oh, get with it.
The most common dilemma is the negative speculations from gossips around you. But hey, I’m a shameless heathen who doesn’t give a flying fuck what others think LOL. I say as long as you know that YOUR and HIS intentions are inline, then no reason to justify your relationship. If your family/friends think you’re being “weird”, just let them get used to it. Surely if they see how happy he makes you, they’ll be happy for you too. Just—for crying out loud, woman—DON’T DO PDA!!!
How young is too young? Mr. Super-Sexy-Smart-Smooth and I didn’t work. Why? The two decades dividing us and, let’s face it, I was scarcely an adult. Oh, youth! *sniff*
There are 16-year-olds that are being pursued by a much older man and they fall in love with them. I can’t blame them, but do I think it’s right? Hmm... I don’t want to say things like statutory rape, *cough* borderlinepedophilia *cough*, EWW GROSS and PERVERT PERVERT!—but this makes me want to shout, “Drop the creep! Enjoy your youth and date guys closer to your own age!”
This is the 21st century, dude needs psychiatric help if he’s 30+ (mid-20) and seriously consider having a relationship with a 16/17-year-old. Age ISN’T nothing but numbers when YOU’RE A FUCKING TEEN AND HE’S TWICE YOUR AGE. I think any man who gets involve with a girl so young has demons in his closet; he’s either immature or has low self-esteem, Tom Cruise syndrome (crazeee midget with a god complex), a control freak, under-achiever, in an early mid-life crisis, emotionally confused, PERVERT PERVERT, or all of the above!
Now, I won’t say your feelings aren’t real. It may be real to you—and who’s to say he’s not sincere? But truth is, THAT’S NOT ENOUGH. You HAVE to consider: Why can’t he relate to women his age (or at least 10 years younger)? What does his being older mean; does he control you or take charge in some other way? What about his exes; *alarm* are they all teens as well?
You might say, “Judgmental Harlot, harrumph, what about those in their 30’s dating someone in their 50’s?” The simple answer: life experience. A teen can’t claim he/she has finished school with a stable career and lived as an adult. Basically, a teen—no matter how mature—is just starting life while a 30-something-person’s is already in full boogie, or, er, tango.
After 11 years of dating, I’ve deduced... ALL boys are the same LOL. Younger men, older men, they all want to get between your legs and dance to the tune of shaking the sheets. (C’mon, I DARE you to deny it. *g*) They only differ on HOW they get to it. Younger men are eager, sometimes too sweet like a little seal pup you want to clobber. Older men, ah... they’re like crossword puzzle: complicated, tricky and you’re NEVER really sure you got the right answer.